To create this article, 47 people, some anonymous, worked to edit and improve it over time. This article has also been viewed 380,780 times. As life gets more hectic, more people are turning to online dating. This article features tips on how to create a profile that reflects your personality, how to search for people with common interests, and how to initiate conversations and in-person meetings. Be honest with yourself about the kind of person you’re looking for. If you can’t find anyone interesting in the current profiles, understand that new ones appear daily on popular sites. Put up several recent photographs of yourself — in both indoor and outdoor light, also a variety of full body shots as well as close ups of your face.
Do not put the classic “Myspace angle” photos or any glamour pictures. If posting a photo online makes you uneasy consider using a private photo sharing service such as www. Don’t put all of your focus on online dating. Don’t seem so desperate that the internet is your last and only hope to find that someone special. For all you know the right person is out at the library, coffee shop, or buying groceries. You have to be positive and think that way as well. People are not attracted to desperation.
Check a few times a week to see if anyone new has shown up that may interest you. Do not hound the same person over and over, send them a message or two and after that leave them alone if they don’t return your contact — they’re probably not interested. When writing things about yourself tell people what kind of person you are looking for. Be humorous and upbeat, but be clear about what your interests are and the type of individual you are interested in. Some of the online dating websites are becoming more sophisticated in the way they match up people, but that does not mean that they cannot make mistakes. Just because an emotionless computer thinks you may be a good match for someone does not mean that you are. Always have a phone conversation with a match before any initial meeting.
Be highly cautious of anyone who does not want to speak on the phone before meeting, or comes up with repeated excuses as to why they cannot meet you. Have no further contact if a match does this. Be cautious with the information that you provide a potential match. Do not give specific details about where you live or where you are employed. Take note of any discrepancies in the details the person provides you — it’s usually an indication that the person is misleading you. Always have the first few meetings and dates in a public place and always let a relative or friend know where you are going and who you are meeting.